The Music of Marriage Book


How do you keep the music playing?

Without the defining and guiding role of the melody, music is formless and devolves into confusion, conflict, and chaos. Without the melody, no one knows what part to play, and the parts have no purpose. In the same way, God, the Creator of marriage, is the leading melodic component from which everything else in marriage derives its place and purpose. Supporting the Divine Melody in harmonic companionship is the formula for making a marriage that sings.

Having been married to one another for over 40 years we uncover the lasting treasures you can find for your marriage so that the music never stops playing. We address themes centered on preserving love in marriage, and those points in a relationship where uncertainty and desperation meet hope and inspiration. Our purpose is to inspire people of all ages with a realistic, positive and hopeful view of marriage as God designed it. Grounded in the certainty of the work of God which cannot be diminished by time or circumstance, nor its permanence easily dismissed, we illustrate how the marital relationship provides the fertile soil for aligning expectations, for mutual understanding, and above all, sacrificial love.

Included in the book are the diverse experiences and Biblical principles we’ve found to be reliable over the years for both character and relational growth. Those two growth dynamics, powered by the promises of God and the Holy Spirit’s working are the drivers of hope and endurance in any relationship.

The updated edition of our book (available in May 2018) is divided into seven parts:

Ballad For A Broken World

The Divine Melody

Harmonic Companionship

Relational Dynamics

The Rhythm Of Love

Resolving Marital Dissonance

How Do You Keep The Music Playing?

Included are guiding principles for spiritual, personal, and
relational transformation in the following categories:

• The cultural influence on marriage
• The transforming power of the gospel
• The love-God connection
• ONENESS—its meaning and power
• Myths surrounding compatibility

• The secret of marital friendship
• Pathways to love and intimacy
• Character—the road to deep relationships
• Nurturing an understanding heart
• Love in the little things
• Speaking the truth in love
• The conversational aspect of marriage

• Fighting the ‘good fight’ & spiritual warfare
• The path to forgiveness and reconciliation
• A biblical perspective on divorce
• Developing an enduring mindset
• How faith ties the present to the future
• Fulfillment and completion over time


“Like their music, the practical wisdom of Bob and Evy Smith is a masterful interweaving of melody, harmony, rhythm, and poetry. Down to earth and supremely Biblical, their book will inspire and convict you; it will encourage and provoke you as you write the music of your own marriage.”
—George Grant • Pastor of Parish Presbyterian Church, and founder of New College Franklin.

“Bob and Evy Smith’s new book is different. This book fulfills a vacancy that has existed for some time. May God use it to bless many.”
—Jay E. Adams • Founder of the modern biblical counseling movement and The Institute for Nouthetic Studies; author of Competent to Counsel.

‘Outstanding!” —Tom Jackson Performance coach, author of Tom Jackson’s Live Music Method and All Roads Lead to the Stage.

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The Music of Marriage Presentation

Be part of the solution to encourage lasting marriages and families!

BOOK US for a live “Music of Marriage” performance and presentation of our love/life songs with talking points from our book!

Church • Small Groups • House Concerts • Coffee Houses • Retreats

A Music of Marriage presentation will feature Bob and Evy sharing their original music, thoughts on how to write the music of your own marriage, how to rewrite the song of a struggling marriage, and how to make the music last.

Expect to be challenged and renewed by:

Love/life songs performed by Bob & Evy

Engaging concepts shared from their book

Personal testimony on lasting marriage

Child sponsorship opportunity

Books and CD’s available for purchase

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Our music is one of varied influences—a blend of folk, jazz, pop and classical. We write to probe beneath the surface of our broken world and complex relationships; the haunting questions underlying things that are just beyond our grasp—that point where despair and uncertainty meet hope and inspiration.


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