How do you keep the music playing?
The ultimate question for anyone considering marriage is, what does it take to make our relationship last? The question is not a simple one, but The Music of Marriage book provides a glimpse into the answer by way of a musical analogy. The music of marriage is masterfully written and composed by God, and we who have taken our vows before him are privileged to be the performers. We have the ultimate composer who wrote the perfect score and directs us throughout the entire performance. Our author also provides the tempo and rhythms that guide us through the desired ups and challenging downs. These rhythms are necessary for spiritual and personal growth. In all of this, we see the need for Sovereign dependency. God’s purpose is to support the music where the beat goes on to the lasting fulfillment of marriage.
We are not the author and composer of marriage—nor are we the director of the orchestra—we are the orchestra. Our only job is to do our part and to allow the “Maestro” to do his. Once we say “I do,” we are no longer auditioning for the part; we are on stage as performers awaiting the Maestro’s cue. Understanding the distinct role relationship between husband, wife, and God is critical for a realistic view of marriage. The reason being is that our focus is on God and his directives to fulfill our responsibility to our spouse, rather than on our spouse and their responsibility to us.
Grounded in the certainty of the work of God which cannot be diminished by time or circumstance, nor its permanence easily dismissed, we illustrate how the marital relationship provides the fertile soil for aligning expectations, for mutual understanding, and above all, sacrificial love. Included in our book are the diverse experiences and Biblical principles we found to be reliable over the years for both character and relational growth. Truly we can rely upon the great Composer of marriage to guide us through to a masterful performance!
Included are the guiding principles and themes for personal and relational transformation:
• The cultural influence on marriage
• Myths surrounding compatibility
• The love-God connection
• ONENESS—its meaning and power
• The secret of marital friendship
• Hindrances to love and intimacy
• Character—the road to a deep relationship
• Nurturing an understanding heart
• Love’s influence in the little things
• Speaking the truth in love
• The conversational aspect of marriage
• Fighting the ‘good fight’ & spiritual warfare
• The path to forgiveness and reconciliation
• A biblical perspective on divorce
• Developing an enduring mindset
• How faith ties the present to the future
• Fulfillment and completion over time
“Like their music, the practical wisdom of Bob and Evy Smith is a masterful interweaving of melody, harmony, rhythm, and poetry. Down to earth and supremely Biblical, their book will inspire and convict you; it will encourage and provoke you as you write the music of your own marriage.”
—George Grant • Pastor of Parish Presbyterian Church, and founder of New College Franklin.
“Bob and Evy Smith’s new book is different. This book fulfills a vacancy that has existed for some time. May God use it to bless many.”
—Jay E. Adams • Founder of the modern biblical counseling movement and The Institute for Nouthetic Studies; author of Competent to Counsel.
‘Outstanding!” —Tom Jackson Performance coach, author of Tom Jackson’s Live Music Method and All Roads Lead to the Stage.